We believe a romantic partner is there to provide us with love, comfort and security. So people are quick to make judgements and lay blame on perpetrators of what they see as a significant violation of relationship norms and betrayal of trust. Infidelity highlights the potential fragility of our closest and most important of relationships. We all want the same things in a partner, but why? But despite the blunt belief infidelity is the result of immoral and over-sexed individuals wanting their cake and eating it too, the reality is far more nuanced.
Is it OK to have an affair if your partner is asexual? Published March 6, By Katrien Devolder I am desperate to start a sexual relationship with an old acquaintance but his wife, who has no interest in sex, would be appalled if she knew. The full story goes like this: I recently reconnected with an old classmate from my teens, and we fell in love almost immediately. We are in our early 50s and both in long marriages to good people whom we love.
What can begin as friendship can start to take a more romantic turn over time—sometimes without you even really noticing. You might even have reached the point where you're pretty sure something could be on the cards - and you're not sure how you feel about it. You feel guilty, but perhaps also a little excited. You're not sure whether to let things continue going in this direction, or whether you should stop. Affairs are often problematic because they represent a short term solution to a longer term problem.