After getting out of a very intense five-year relationship, I actually took a year off from dating altogether. The weekend was wonderful. The part of me that was also a mare shuddered. But to his credit, the dating experience was so positive it got me back in the saddle and over my fear of opening up my sacred sexual energy to a new partner. I wanted to repeat it many times over with all different kinds of men.
I Tried Tantra Speed Dating, and Things Got Weird Real Quick
Share this article via email Share this article via flipboard Copy link Illustration: Deirdre Spain for Metro. We are at a yoga studio in Manhattan on a Tuesday evening, waiting for a Tantric speed dating session to begin. Unlike that man, who manages to break the almost tangible tension in the air with those few words that ultimately lead to conversation, I remain silent. I make myself as small as I can, wedged between a pile of mats and a thick red velvet curtain that is inexplicably draped across the hallway as we wait to go in. They, just like the pair to my right, sound unsure and nervous.
In fact, I had just met this man. And we were in a brightly lit yoga studio in the Lower Haight with a dream catcher on the wall and a statue of Buddha in the corner. Roughly 40 other singles were paired off around us, all engaged in the exact same awkward declaration — yes, strangers had been instructed to pledge their unconditional devotion to each other.