By Eliel Cruz September 23 Despite all of the gains the LGBT community has made, bisexuals are still looked upon with confusion — or outright scorn — by gays, lesbians, and straight people alike. From people asking me if I was "full-blown gay yet" to others questioning my motivations, I've probably heard it all. Unfortunately, the binary thinking of those who deny bisexuality's existence ultimately oppresses everyone by perpetuating unflinching standards of identity, whether they be heteronormative or homonormative.
When I married I knew that my partner had partaken in sexual experiences with men. As a teenager he had experimented with other teenagers, and then continued dabbling as a young man. After all, , I thought, his father is gay, his parents divorced when he was three, his mother on her third husband; he must have been sexually confused. We fell in love and we married, had two kids, a dog and two cats.
The sad fact is, despite sexuality very much being a spectrum that can shift and evolve as a person grows into themselves, being bisexual is still stigmatized. As wrong as this line of thinking is, it is a stereotype that has been perpetuated by every form of media currently seeping into the American psyche. When men want to explore with other men, they are forever branded as a homosexual. When I first came out of the closet, I thought telling people I was bi would ease them into the idea that I found men appealing. In reality all it did was make women confused by me and the other boys in my grade skeptical.