Matthew Vines, in a lecture on the Bible and homosexuality , remarked, Falling in love is one of the worst things that could happen to a gay person because you will necessarily be heartbroken. You will have to run away, and that will happen every single time that you come to care about someone else too much. That it had to end? For Side-A gay Christians, it is often this reason coupled with several others that they find celibacy unlivable choosing then to pursue deep relationality in romantic same-sex relationships. Until then, they remain in this state of brokenness and distress.
Jordan Whelan Entrepreneur I was 19 years old when I effortlessly fell in love. Falling in love without fear is a privilege often reserved for youth. As we get older we yearn for that beautiful moment of purity before we learn the brutal truth that every love comes with no guarantees. This particular love patched the hole in my heart left by childhood torment over my sexuality. But a patch by nature is a temporary solution and can make a crash back to reality even more pronounced.
The craziest and most absurd issue that will arise, is that some of them will hate to discover that their heart will in fact fall in love with a woman. For some of those men, when their heart chooses for them who it will love, they in fact will never have had any sexual relations with a woman before up to that point in life. The gay boy whose heart chooses the girl over another boy, will more likely spend the rest of his life in misery. She would prefer that a heterosexual male be the love of her life and not a gay boy.
There was another intern in the running to be a member of our tightly bound, Robin Hood, Knights of the Round Table group. Half of the group teased me, saying I only wanted him because he was cute he was. Half of the group agreed with me that he was intelligent and brought something new and fresh to our organization he did.