Contributors control their own work and posted freely to our site. If you need to flag this entry as abusive, send us an email. There are a few different things that happened during the time I was newly separated that caused me to classify myself as temporarily psychotic, one of those being when I figured out "my ex is dating my friend! Here was a woman who I thought was my good girlfriend. We had gotten together a few times and I had told her things -- personal things about my ex and our relationship, why I was getting divorced, etc. I shared things with her and trusted her.
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I faked as much excitement as I could. We were always in touch, meeting up at least once a fortnight, and calling each other most days to catch up, rant and laugh about our lives. When she met her boyfriend Mo last year, I was genuinely thrilled for her. My first impressions of Mo were great.
I find myself getting more and more frustrated and angry at them. Whenever they ask me to hang out I come up with some excuses to avoid them. What should I do? Distraught Dear Distraught, I understand how you feel.
For quirkyalones, people for whom friendship is the bedrock of our worldview, the process can be even more dramatic. Acknowledge that while the first reaction might be happiness, you also have sadness, mixed with chagrin; you want to be excited for your friend but you are worried about losing your partner in crime. Sit with those feelings. You need to express your fears of abandonment, but probably not to your friend. Talk with other members of your circle.